Kiki Series 8

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*Do I consider myself a feminist? When I say no, people (in this case feminists) usually think I'm one of the reasons they're still fighting for gender equality. Truth is both genders can never be equal, why do we even want to be equal to men. Our biological makeup is different already. However, I'm an advocate of women empowerment. We should stand for more than most people offer. We shouldn't fight to be equal to men, we're greater than men. A man is just a movement and needs a woman to be at his best. Women pick up the pieces, women should be strong, women should be leaders. Don't even get me started on relationships, how..*

"Kiki". Daniel interrupted the thoughts in my head. *Men never know when to interrupt but I guess that's what makes us stronger, ability to balance it all* I think.

My brother seemed worried though,

                "What's going on Dee?".

                            "We think Tomi is pregnant".

Different thoughts go through my heads, I knew they were all mushy and annoying but that they were sexually active still hit me like a blow, I don’t know why. To now know that they weren't smart or careful about it. What was I going to say? *Ok, he said think right?* I am in deep thoughts, calculating everything, balancing it, I'm sure he thinks I'm in shock. But I'm wondering how a great woman reacts to this. What would Alicia Florrick do in this case. Well, old Alicia, not nuts one. Well, he’s not so young and I'm pro-life, never going to say abortion. What’s a baby sister to say?

I managed to say

            "Daniel..",

                "I'm going to propose to her" he interrupted.

                           "You can't marry her cause she's pregnant!".

Then I realized a talk on women empowerment would have been hypocritical of me, how can I talk about strengthening women, when I'm so quick to save my brother from a woman he loved just because she was pregnant.

                    "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said that, you should do everything in your power to make things right with Tomi and the baby".

We had a long talk and Daniel seemed pretty confident about being ready. He planned to propose on Saturday.

I remember many things about that day. I remember my first major argument with Toju where he got dramatic about the whole “you're not supportive” thing.

I remember blacking out for what felt like a few seconds. I could hear voices the whole time. I had gone to the market with my aunt. It probably had something to do with the drinks I took the previous night but my aunt kept throwing ‘pregnancy test questions’ at me. If only she knew Daniel was the one baby smells was oozing out of.

I remember feeling like I was having a bad day and then on my way home, I saw that street lights were getting fixed. I made a video ranting about the poorly lit roads. The thought that someone was actually moved to do something from the rants made me wonder how far I could go.

That day was many things. Daniel proposed and Tomi said yes. I remember how bittersweet it felt. I loved how they had confirmed she wasn't pregnant but he still felt it was time to propose, not because he had planned anything elaborate and couldn't cancel, it was very simple infact and perfect. The whole day actually was bittersweet, I was gaining a sister, one that can't keep calm..lol.

I remember getting home to the sweet aroma of Turkey and chips. The only thing my brother ever makes, his favourite meal to prepare. Wondered how Daniel could make the time.

I remember I was rather disappointed that my radio station dream still wasn't in plain view and I hadn't gotten any positive feedback from my desired prospective funders.

There's no perfect end to my story. Every day emerges with its own peculiarities. But today, I know what I feel, the willingness to make a difference however long it takes. The desire to be a better person. I really just want to see how far I can go.