Why did you get married?

I read a story about two weeks ago on a blog. This story, is about a man finding out on his wedding night that his wife who claimed to be celibate while they were dating, was actually sleeping with another man. Despite all the “yeepa, ooh, aah’s”, what actually caught my attention was what I read that he typed “after I had praised and worshiped her in front of family and friends”. It made me wonder if all he liked about his woman was the fact that he thought she had a chastity belt on.

I understand sexual purity is wonderful, and men probably like the chase bla bla but come on, is that all you can praise your woman about? Is that enough to think that one woman is better than the other? Yeah, if you got yourself a virgin, or a secondary virgin, you are allowed to be very happy about it but not brag about it. An unmarried woman should be a virgin, if she isn’t she made a mistake, she’s human no big deal  but bragging about the ideal thing, erm I think is unnecessary. Sugar is meant to be sweet and when it is, I don’t shout “It is sweet!”, I just know, appreciate and enjoy. I’m not saying non-virgins aren’t sweet o, just the best analogy I could come up with. I'm just stating that, there's more to a woman. And a smart man should look to see the more

To the man that has a girlfriend he is sleeping with but wants to marry the one he hasn’t touched. Why? Are your goals aligned, are you medically compatible, does she make you better etc or she’s just purer than the one you have touched? Why are you getting married?

Now, to the woman who decides to be deceitful to get a man; If you are of marriageable age and things aren’t working for you like you planned, you really don’t have to be cunny about it. Set some rules and standards but stick to them totally. Should you abstain from sex only just to get a man? Isn’t there more to life (even if we haven’t quite figured it out) than having a husband really? I know we all want that one person that idolizes us, but we can’t even appreciate that if it’s not about our true self. Virgins are happily married, non-virgins are happily married, don’t cheat yourself out of a happy marriage.

And finally, to the asunder puter. Go and find your spouse 👏👏.

Is the man that married a woman because he got her pregnant not better that the one that left his baby mama to marry the ‘pure’ one only for that reason? I know there are many scenarios to the previous sentence, but note that I only pointed one out.

I really don’t know why people get married if they are not emotionally ready. What is it like to be emotionally ready? For the married people, happily or not, why did you get married? For the ones about to get married, why are you getting married? And the ones that aren’t quite there, why should you get married